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🫣 Letter 117: Reflections on June & Being Kinder

7 min

Taking pauses, yoga wins, learning dutch, bravery through reflection

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Aloha fellow learn-it-all 👋

Greetings from Diamond Head, O'ahu, Hawai'i 🌺

I've been doing more things that calm me down. These have consisted of staring at the waves, long walks around the park, sailing, and loads of journaling.

Last week, I shared about recently being diagnosed with anxiety. It feels like I've been ignorant to allow this to impact me for this long without noticing it. I feel fairly self-aware with the amount of time I spend mirroring back my own thoughts daily with conscious streams like the Niagara in my journal.

I told myself that I would share a blog with reflections on my time in Hawaii so far. That didn't converge in time. I also told myself I would do a semi-annual review reflecting on this first half of the year as I promised myself in my annual review. That didn't happen either...

The constant theme here: I expect too much from myself.

I write these letters to have fun, and when I expect too much from myself, they lose that element. In an effort to stop overwhelming myself, I broke down this project to zoom in on what happened this past month. That alone is already a heaping 2000+ word reflection, don't worry I got it down to less than 1000.

I didn't realize it until I reread 100+ pages of my journal and created a table of contents matching themes across the entries.

Now, let’s dive into letter 117 from a learn-it-all. Enjoy!

❓ Question to think about

What happened in June?

🖊 Writing

I feel like I have experienced more growth in the past month than in the other months this year.

On a path where I constantly seek growth and fear complacency, pausing is challenging. Sure, I wrote about the importance of these last November in The Art of Pausing in a Busy World. I am still FAR from figuring out how to regularly act on them.

Giving myself this space to reflect without feeling rushed and be kinder to myself, I feel inspired to deeply respect myself.

I posted last week about not feeling so great. I've since received many kind messages, and for that I am grateful. Thank you. For those of you who are still struggling today, things do get better. As long as we keep going. Things will change over time when you notice them and the storm eventually does settle. Sending that courage your way if you need it.

As for the question I’m answering today, like last month, in letter 112, I'd like to share reflections from the month of June on what I love, lacked, learned, questioned and was surprised by.

What I loved:

What I lacked:

What I learned:

Questions to ponder:

Any surprises?

When the doctor told me that my hypothesis of having asthma was all in my head.

Monthly Habit Experiment

Last month was yoga and stretching. I’m still going to keep on doing hula hoop movements to loosen my hips, hammock poses to relieve neck tension, and lunges to help with my tight hamstrings.

Month of July Habit: Daily Dutch.

Since I will be going to the Netherlands at the end of this month to begin my nomadic travels, I will continue doing my Duolingo streak in brushing on my minimal Dutch knowledge.

🌟 Quote to inspire

“I love those who can smile in trouble, who can gather strength from distress, and grow brave by reflection.” – Leonardo Da Vinci

📷 Photos of the Week

My holiday weekend consisted of a birthday pool party and going to three different beaches for totally different vibes.

The first beach I went to was Waikiki beach to watch my first and the oldest outrigger canoe regatta in the world. The next beach I went to was at Fort De Russy to play some fours of beach volleyball. There were fire spinners and a lot of jello shots being had. Too much stimulation, and not my vibe. Maybe four years ago when Jenny V was vibrant and alive.

The next beach I went to was Ala Moana where family barbeques are plentiful and rambunctious kiddos chasing bubbles around is the norm. This was the vibe. I waited until sunset before dipping out early to go to bed. Am I a grandma that I went to bed before the fireworks went off? Maybe. C’est la vie ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Oh and I also accidentally locked myself out of my bedroom.

I grew up with no locks on my door and am clearly not used to it. Luckily my roommate grew up as a gymnast and doesn’t have claustrophobia like I do. She managed to scurry through our overhead storage to unlock my room. Hallelujah!

Never doing that again… I got lucky this time. Lesson for future self, don’t leave the door locked when there is a perpetual draft in my un-air-conditioned home.

🙏 Shoutouts

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Never stop learning 😁

Mahalo 🌺


PS- If you missed last week's letter on unknowing myself, check it out here.

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👣 Footnotes

Skepticism on my daily journaling prompts:

On the beginning of my journal with self-love:

On perfection:

On the poem I shared last week:

Kirkland > Rayban:


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